So I am sitting here with Nikki watching Dora, and I have this sense that this is what parenting should feel like. Happiness, accomplishments, good days, and laughing...
I realize that there are bad days, and I'm not expecting parenting to be perfect and happy all the time, honestly I realize this. We have just had so many hard tough days, and it's SO nice to get that sense ... THIS is what parenting should feel like. I feel like it's a glimpse from God as to what parenting might feel like all the time someday. It makes me so happy.
Let me share some of the accomplishments of the day:
1. Nikki has had THREE "perfect" days in the past 6 days. She has had a lot of trouble with being non compliant, yelling, even some aggression and spitting. Nothing hurts me more then to see her binder at the end of the day when she hasn't been able to control herself... knowing she has hurt someone or spit at her teachers. She gets a sticker from her teachers for a good day. Most days, even if she gets 2 or 3, sometimes even 4 "bad marks" she still gets a sticker. Her check system isn't meant to be negative... it just lets us know where and what she had a hard time with. Some days she gets 10 or more checks. BUT, in the past 6 days, she has had 3 days with NO checks... this is HUGE progress!!
2. Jackson had another successful day potty training. He has been really good peeing on the potty for a while... but the other business has been much tougher, and taken months! Tonight Jackson had another success in that department, making like 3 or 4 successes in the toilet... and each one (hopefully) brings him closer to really being potty trained. He is also starting school in less then 3 weeks, and I'm SO excited to see how quickly he gains ground... I can't wait for him to be in school!
3. We are continually being told how great Alli is doing... she is ahead of the game, advanced for her age. Her EI person was shocked when we told her she has started saying things like "Horsey go?" (Where did the horsey go?) and "my daddy bye bye" (My daddy went bye bye). She is getting manners, animal and animal sounds, and even some body parts already. I asked her EI lady if they really have been focusing on that, and she said that she just picks up things really quickly. Her EI lady also decreased her visits to 2x a month, even thought the department wants her to keep getting services because she is just doing so well.
4. "happy moments"... I don't talk a lot about it... but these wonderful children can be very needy, and very overwhelming... not only did we go from 0-3 kids all at once... we went to having 3 children, 2 of which have significant delays... and to top if all off we have had a horrible experience with DCF, to say the least, and they are more then frustrating most of the time. It is taxing on us emotionally, physically, and probably the most, on our time. It's hard to juggle work when there are constant appointments for them.... so these "happy moments" are what keep me going... and there have been a lot lately... Here are just a couple...
- Nikki made up this song about her "raspberry soda"(carbonated water)... Tracy introduced her to this concept and she LOVES it... This is her song- "Raspberry soda, straight to my heart!" (picture this with dramatic singing, hand motions, and very over dramatic facial expressions)
- Jackson is obsessed with his shoes from Auntie Liz. 5 dollar "cool kid" ked type shoes. Auntie Liz tried to get him to try on fancy shoes, and he kept telling her "nope!"... but she found the 5 dollar fake keds and took off his sneakers and stuck his foot up in the air for her. Now it's hard to get him to take them off. Hilarious.
-Alli likes to sit on the toilet. She had some gas, and I just jokingly asked her if she needed to go potty. She proceeded to jump up, said Poop!, grabbed her book,and walked right to the potty. I helped her take her diaper off, she sat on the potty, grunted, and then kept looking behind her into the potty to see if anything had magically appeared. I am in NO way trying to train her... she's at like step "2" of a "50" step process... but... I just thought it was sooo funny... I wish I could post the video :-).
I hope you have enjoyed the happenings as much as I have.
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